Jealousy is indeed a strong emotion that infects and affects a relationship. Jealousy can be felt toward anyone your spouse, partner, friends, siblings, parents, co-workers, children, and others. Except for the jealousy that should be felt toward someone your spouse is cheating on you with, you need to deal with jealousy and not let it affect your relationship. Therefore, overcoming jealousy in your relationship is non-negotiable.
Jealousy is like bacteria in any relationship, and if not tackled effectively it can destroy it. Being involved with a jealous partner can be extremely difficult. An insecure partner can be intrusive, invasive, irritating and annoying. Even if you don’t consider yourself to be a jealous person, when you are in a relationship, it is inevitable that you will experience jealousy from time to time, whether it is rational or irrational. Jealousy is not necessarily bad, rather it signals to you that your emotional needs or feelings may be unmet. Whether you are seeking security and validation from your partner, or you want to know if you are a top priority, it is important to determine what the underlying reason is for your jealousy. Jealousy is a felling and it starts with insecurity, envy, competition, fear of loss, control, and self-pity. Jealousy is focused on something you want and don’t have or have and you are fearful of losing it. Your fears over losing what you have will drive you to act in ways that will sabotage the relationship and increase the chances that it won’t work. You may be driven by your fears of losing the one you love and your insecurities may reveal your jealousy as a plea for more love and care. It is human nature, after all, to crave for reassurance and love when doubt arises. But you should always remember that jealousy is actually one of the biggest causes of the downfall of a relationship. So when you do feel jealous, you don’t bring your partner closer. In fact, you drive them away with your behaviour. If you feel that your partner is doing something that is making you jealous, you can express how you feel and talk to him or her in a mature way. You can also communicate it with humour, diplomacy or directly as long as it is respectful. If you are humorous, you can joke about how insanely jealous you are when your partner pays attention to someone else. It helps to let a jealous partner know that he or she can talk to you about his or her feelings; that you will listen to a partner’s fears and anxieties and try to understand where he or she is coming from. When you are diplomatic, you can let your partner know that you love him or her so much and you know that him or her will never cheat on you. However, don’t hide anything from your partner. Hiding things ignites tension in the relationship. Be open with your partner and avoid lying. Be open about your feelings to avoid arguments and differences.
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Jealousy is one of the world’s oldest emotions. It’s been around since the beginning of time. Overcoming jealousy starts with your thoughts. When you change the way you think, you change the way you feel and act. The easiest way to change your focus is to begin by helping others. It will definitely be time well spent. Therefore, how to overcome jealousy in your relationship is by stop wanting what other people have.